SEtalk: Stop Saying "I'm So Busy"

How are you?

大家最近好嗎？

Think about your answer for a second.

花個一秒想想你們會怎麼回答。

I bet it's something like, "Busy! So busy!"

我猜大概是：「忙！超忙的！」

That was my answer for ten years.

這10年來，我都是這樣回答的。

And honestly... I was proud of it.

而且老實說……我還挺引以為傲的。

I worked late almost every night.

我幾乎每天晚上都加班到很晚。

I answered emails at dinner.

我吃晚餐的時候也在回信。

I even checked my phone at my sister's wedding.

我甚至在妹妹的婚禮上還在看手機。

Being busy made me feel important.

忙碌讓我覺得自己很重要。

And I'm not the only one.

而且不只我一個人這樣。

In 2017, researchers found something surprising.

2017年，研究人員發現了一件出乎意料的事。

In America, being busy has become a status symbol.

在美國，忙碌已經變成一種身分地位的象徵。

A full calendar is the new expensive car!

排滿的行事曆，就是新時代的名車！

"I'm busy" really means, "I'm important."

「我很忙」其實意思是「我很重要」。

Then my dad got sick.

後來，我爸爸生病了。

Nothing terrible, but he was in hospital for a week.

不算嚴重，但他住院住了一個禮拜。

For the first time in years, I sat still.

這麼多年來第一次，我靜靜地坐了下來。

And I realised something uncomfortable.

然後我發現了一件讓人很不自在的事。

I wasn't busy. I was avoiding things.

我不是忙，我是在逃避。

Avoiding my family. Avoiding rest. Avoiding hard questions.

逃避家人、逃避休息、逃避那些很難回答的問題。

Busy had become my hiding place.

「忙」成了我的藏身之處。

So I tried a small experiment.

於是我做了一個小實驗。

For one month, I stopped saying "I'm busy."

整整一個月，我不再說「我很忙」。

Instead, I said, "It's not a priority right now."

我改說：「這件事現在不是我的優先事項。」

Wow, that sentence hurts a little!

哇，這句話聽了有點心痛！

But it helped me choose what really matters.

但它幫我挑出真正重要的事。

Now, when people ask how I am,

現在，當別人問我最近好不好，

I tell them something real.

我會跟他們說些真實的事。

"I cooked with my dad on Sunday. It was great!"

「禮拜天我跟我爸一起下廚。超開心的！」

So next time someone asks you, try it.

所以下次有人問你們，試試看吧。

Don't be busy. Be present.

不要忙碌，要活在當下。

Thank you.

謝謝大家。